The best part of your wedding just may happen after the guests go home and you slip out of your fancy clothes. After all, it's your wedding night and the two of you want to be alone together. You want to make it special, but you don't want to burden it with too-high expectations.
"Today, there seems to be more pressure to make this night amazing and to do something that's ‘wow'—perhaps because many people live together before getting married," says Ava Cadell, Ph.D., a sex and relationship therapist in Los Angeles and the author of 12 Steps to Everlasting Love (Peters Publishing). "But you don't have to make a big production for it to be a wonderful time...lol. There are a lot of little things that couples can do." Here, some simple ways to make your wedding night memorable.
1) Look the part – Be you the groom or bride here’s a tip to know your night will go well {If what you are wearing doesn’t make your partner want to rip it off, then you have successfully disappointed yourself and your partners ‘intimate ego. Make sure your undergarments are on point... you can even tag a theme to your outfit {especially brides} like -
Wedding lingerie,honeymoon lingerie and sexy bridal lingerie makes a very special gift either to the bride or the bride to be. But what about after the wedding ceremony and the honeymoon? What are you going to wear to keep the romance you felt on your wedding day going throughout the year and the years? Bridal lingerie is about the wedding day but also all about the romance after that special day and night. White is the traditional color of bridal and honeymoon as it symbolizes virginity. While that may be passe' white lingerie is very special for the bride as well as the groom. Color though is only part of the formula as women today want variety in the color as well as in the style that women want to wear. Lingerie is so intertwined with romance and sex that there is no way to seperate them and no reason to do so. Buying lingerie is an opportunity for a woman or a man to express their sexuality and men can express their preferences as to what they would like a woman to wear. There aren't many more personal gifts and lingerie can bring pleasure for many months or years to come. Contrary to popular belief women love wearing lingerie but often men purchase lingerie for the wrong reasons. Women deserve lingerie that they enjoy wearing, are comfortable wearing and not just a man's fantasy. Let's face it many women wear lingerie that doesn't look good on them, the color is wrong and often is simply too revealing and as a result they don't really enjoy putting the lingerie on for a second or third time. Lingerie is worn by a woman and if she is pleased with the garment, loves the color and it makes her look sexy and not like a clown she will likely want to wear it again and again. This is why purchasing the right lingerie, not just the sexiest or most revealing must be a primary factor at the time of purchase. Most men would never agree to wear something that is over the top even if it pleases his mate. Women deserve to be able to wear sexy lingerie but not at the expense of their self respect or sense of style. As women age they often are more and more willing to take chances with their lingerie as they become more comfortable with their mate and their own bodies.
2) Flirt with each other during the wedding. Sure, you're busy attending to guests, but take the time to meet each other's gaze, touch each other's arm or hand and steal some kisses. These little things keep you focused on each other, and build anticipation as the wedding night approaches.
3) Fill your room with fragrance. "Scents are carried to your brain's emotional center, where they can stimulate memories, emotions and moods. They soothe, relax, energize or arouse," explains Hilda Hutcherson, M.D., codirector of the New York Center for Women's Sexual Health at Columbia University Medical Center and the author of Pleasure: A Woman's Guide to Getting the Sex You Want, Need and Desire (Putnam). If you're staying in a hotel room, arrange to have a bouquet of flowers put by the bed, as well as scented candles. You can also sprinkle a few drops of essential oil on your sheets. Try ylang-ylang, sandalwood, lavender or jasmine—scents that are said to increase arousal and sexual desire.
4) Let him carry you across the threshold. You're guaranteed to be swept off your feet! This romantic tradition, which dates from Roman times, when it was said to ensure good luck for the couple, is fun for both partners. Go from there to giving each other foot massages (you've been standing all day), and progress as slowly—or as quickly—as you like to a sensual full-body massage.
5) Set the night to music. Load the CD player with your spouse's favorite tunes, and put it on when you enter your hotel room. "Or have a CD of your first dance playing softly in the background as you enter the honeymoon suite," suggests Janet Dunnington, owner of CEO Weddings & Events, an event-planning and production company in Manchester, Vermont.
Engaged couples spend lots of time planning for the big day, but not everybody plans well for the big wedding night. This time alone together after the festivities can be incredibly meaningful and romantic.
6) Take Your Time Many people think a wedding night means jumping into bed right away. But it's worth it to take a few minutes to talk about the magic of your day, the parts you loved the most, and how you feel about each other. Since the wedding goes by so quickly, it's worth it to take a few moments to remember. You should also to take a few minutes to set the scene. Bring along your stereo and favorite music, some flowers, and even massage oil or other treats to make things especially romantic.
7) Enjoy Each Other . Speaking of jumping into bed, you might be worried about sex. If you're a virgin, you're probably full of questions and apprehensions. If you're not a virgin, you might be feeling pressure to have extra special wedding night sex. Regardless of how much experience you have, you need to take the pressure off! Instead, focus on enjoying each other. If you end up consummating the marriage on your wedding night, great! If not, there's a lifetime ahead of you. For more tips on enjoying sex on your wedding night, check out Wedding Night Sex Tips and Wedding Night Sex Tips for Virgins
8) Pack a Bag . I've heard of more than a few brides waking up the morning after, only to realize that they have no change of clothes – only their wedding dress! They've got a long - and slightly embarrasing - walk through the hotel lobby ahead of them and an uncomfortable drive home. So be smart and pack a bag of casual clothes, toiletries, and a pair of comfortable shoes. Since most wedding dresses require special constrictive foundation garments like long-line bras and girdles, make sure to pack a regular bra as well. You might also want to bring a swimsuit if your hotel has a pool or hot tub.
9) Be Safe Don't drink and drive, especially on your wedding night. If you don't have a limo or a friend to drive you, make sure you don't drink too much (if at all) at the wedding reception. I know this sounds like common sense, but you'd be surprised how many couples don't plan ahead for this. And a dangerous wedding night is not a happy wedding night. But also, alcohol can keep you from having really good wedding night sex!
10) Have a Snack It's true that most couples hardly eat at their wedding reception. They're too busy talking, laughing and dancing to do anything as mundane as sitting down to eat. So by the time it's all over, they realize that they're starving. On my wedding night, a few friends had thoughtfully packed a bottle of champagne, and a basket with snacks/cake and fruit for the hotel. So we had a feast! But it would also be fun to go through a drive through window in your wedding gown, or even to go to a 24-hour diner still dressed in your wedding finery.
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